Condolence Message


How to create a Condolence Message for a friend, relative or co-worker?


Keepsakes Etc. has summarized the best Sympathy and Condolence messages we have seen over the last 20 years. The following suggested Condolence Messages should help you compose a warm and comforting expression of sympathy.





An expression in which someone is made aware that their pain is shared in the face of the death of a loved one. Latin word condole, meaning “To Suffer Together.”


Religious Condolence Message Ideas:

  • I am sorry for your loss, and I want you to know that I will be praying for strength, peace, and comfort for you and your family.

  • I’ll be praying for you and your family. God’s love and grace are always with you.

  • The hope of salvation is most important in our lives when death touches us.

  • We’re praying that the light of God’s face shines on you in the darkness of your grief.

  • Heaven has received a new member.

  • The thought of knowing that our loved ones are in the presence of the savior can be of some comfort.

  • I am sorry for your loss, and I want you to know that I will be praying for strength, peace, and comfort for you and your family.

  • Please accept my deepest condolences and know that God loves you and can restore your spirits, give you peace, and strengthen you.

  • God sees and knows everything. He is with you right now.

  • We/I are/am deeply saddened by the news of (Name of deceased) passing. Our/My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  • Prayers and fond memories are what we have to remember (Departed).

  • May our Lord bless and comfort you and your family during this time of grief.

  • May the soul of (Name of deceased) rest in peace.

  • We would like to offer our prayers and condolences to you and your family.

  • May God embrace you in comfort during this difficult time.

  • God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

  • Call unto Me, and I will answer you… Jeremiah 33:3

  • His compassions, they fail not. They are new every morning: great is Thy faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23

  • The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him and I am helped. Psalm 28:7

  • He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Isaiah 40:29

  • I leave with you; my peace I give to you. John 14:27

  • May God comfort you among the other mourners of Zion and Jerusalem

  • That you should know no further sorrow.

  • (Name of deceased) soul is now at peace.

  • (Name of deceased) is resting with the lord.

  • (Name of deceased) soul is now free.

  • (Name of deceased) pain is gone and it is our turn to deal with sorrow. (Name of deceased) has found eternal rest.

  • (Name of deceased) soul is now at peace.

  • (Name of deceased) is resting with the lord.

  • (Name of deceased) soul is now free.

  • (Name of deceased) has found eternal rest.

  • May my condolences bring you comfort, and may my prayers ease the pain of this loss.

  • I offer you my thoughts, prayers and well-wishes during this dark time in your life.

  • Prayers and fond memories are what we must remember our dearly departed. My Love.

  • I am truly sorry to hear of the loss of your (Relative). Please accept our condolences and may our prayers help comfort you.

  • Our condolences to you and your family on the passing of your aunt. May our friendship and prayers ease you through this difficult time.

  • We are deeply saddened by your loss; may our prayers guide his soul to our Heavenly Father. Sincere condolences!

  • We are deeply saddened by the news of (Name) passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  • I am deeply saddened by the loss of your brother. He will be truly missed, and I will include him in my daily prayers.

  • May the soul of the dearly departed rest in peace, may my prayers help guide her on her journey to our Creator.

  • May fond memories of your (Relative) bring you comfort during this hard time in your life. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.

  • I cannot even begin to understand what you’re going through right now, but I would like to offer my prayers and condolences.

  • We would like to express our sorrow and condolences to you and your family. She will be a part of our prayers from now on.

Sympathy Bible Verses

General Condolence Message Ideas:

  • Our deepest sympathy and prayers to you and your family, (Name of deceased) will deeply be missed.

  • May God wrap his arms around you and the entire family and give you peace. We love you all and are so blessed to have known Snow. Love always,

  • With heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your daughter, (Name of deceased). May the love, prayers and support of your family and friends bring you comfort during this most difficult time - Love,

  • Our prayers continue for you, your mother, sister and family. May this throw give you warmth and comfort as you carry the memories of your father.

  • When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure. May you treasure all your memories of your Mom. Hugs,

  • He was a wonderful father and grandfather to me and mom but we know he was also your friend and confidant! I hope this helps commemorate him for future generations of our family! With Love,

  • Lori, I so wish I could be there today with you and your family. I loved (Name of deceased) as a brother. I will continue to love him and you all until we all greet one another in the Presence of Christ!

  • Prayers for peace and comfort in the days ahead. Love,

  • Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your heart. Love, Our deepest sympathies.

  • May the good memories see you through the difficult times ahead. We are all here for you!

  • So sorry! We are here if you need anything! She was an amazing person!

  • We hope this blanket will bring you warmth and support in your time of grief and in the days to come. With our deepest condolences

  • Those who have shown us love, brought us joy, and made us laugh, have given us the lasting gifts of a beautiful life - and blessed our memories forever. Our Sincere Sympathy.

  • May this special throw give you warmth, peace and comfort. Love your cousins

  • (Name) and I continue to remember you in our thoughts and prayers believing that God will provide you all that you need to endure.

  • We are so sorry for your loss. Ed was an amazing man and we were blessed he was a part of our Family

  • We are so sorry to hear about your mom. We are keeping you and the family in our thoughts and prayers. We are here for you if you need anything. Love,

  • Our hearts are saddened by your loss and our thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely,

  • A great man has left this earth but will forever be in our hearts. Great memories will live on. All our love,

  • Our sympathy for the loss of your father. Sincerely, your coworkers

  • I know it's nowhere near the same, but maybe sometimes when you're really missing your mom, you can wrap this blanket around your shoulders and imagine it's a hug from her. I cannot express

  • How sorry I am that she has gone so soon. My heart is with you. Love,

  • We hope you know how much you and yours are loved. We are so sorry.

  • Know that our thoughts are with you and your family at this sorrowful time. May you know that your dad is now at peace and he Loved you Dearly...Our Deepest Sympathy---

  • For you and your sisters, from all of us in your work Family. We know your dad had to be spectacular as he raised you. You are a wonderful legacy.

  • Although we are apart in miles, we are together always in heart and spirit. Much much love,

  • May you feel ......... warm embrace, comfort and peace in your grief journey. You and your family are close in thought and prayer. I love you

  • Words just can't say enough. Know that I mourn with you and pray for your strength through this painful loss. Love,

  • (Name of deceased) loved you so much.

  • (Name of deceased) pain is gone and it is our turn to deal with sorrow.

  • (Name of deceased) was a great man.

  • (Name of deceased) was a great woman.

  • (Name the deceased) loved you so much.

  • A kind voice is just a phone call away.

  • A loved ones passing is never easy.

  • A thought of comfort and condolences to the grieving family.

  • Allow the love of others to lift you in this time of grief.

  • Allow yourself time to grieve tears can heal the soul.

  • Do you feel like talking?

  • I am deeply saddened by (Name of deceased) death.

  • I am sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you and your family during these difficult times.

  • I am sorry.

  • I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your (Name of deceased).I don’t know what to say.

  • This must be really tough for you.

  • I hurt for you.

  • I just heard of (Name of deceased) passing.

  • I learned of (Name of deceased) premature death.

  • I learned of (Name of deceased) sudden death.

  • I learned of (Name of deceased) tragic death.

  • I want to express my condolences to you.

  • I want to offer my deepest condolences.

  • I want you to know friends who love you surround you.

  • I was deeply saddened by the news of (Name of deceased) passing.

  • My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

  • I was truly saddened by the death of (Name of deceased).

  • I will be thinking of you in this moment of pain.

  • I hope you can hold on to the good memories.

  • I’m always there in your hour of need. May her soul rest in peace.

  • I’m so sorry about your (Father, Mother; Brother; etc. or Name the deceased)

  • I’m so sorry to hear about your loss.

  • If never seems fair, but death is often the greatest relief for the suffering.

  • If we can provide you comfort, know our thoughts are with you.

  • It was a shock to hear the news of (Name of deceased) passing.

  • Let patients be upon you in this time of grief.

  • Let the memories of (Name of deceased) life comfort you in his/her death.

  • May the memories of (Name of deceased) help you find peace.

  • May the passage of time heal your grief.

  • May you find comfort in loving memories.

  • My family and I were saddened to learn of (Name of deceased) death.

  • My family extends to you our deepest sympathies.

  • My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family

  • No words can describe how sorry I am for your loss.

  • Our collective hearts are heavy with sympathy.

  • Our collective hearts are heavy with sympathy.

  • Our hearts are with you.

  • Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow.

  • Our thoughts are with you and your family.

  • Our thoughts are with you in this time of sorrow.

  • Please accept our heartfelt condolences.

  • Please let me know of any way I can help you.

  • Please reach out to me in your time of need.

  • Sharing in your sorrow with love and friendship.

  • Someone so special can never be forgotten.

  • Sorry to hear about (Name of deceased). It is never easy. My prayers are with you and your family.

  • The news of (Name of deceased) death brings much sadness.

  • There were few who could compare to (Name of deceased).

  • Thinking of you, at this time of loss.

  • We are consumed with sadness to learn of the tragic loss of (Name of deceased).

  • We are here for you.

  • We are sorry for your loss. (Name of deceased), was such a great person, (He/She) will live on in our memories forever.

  • We are thinking of you during these difficult times.

  • We cannot begin to imagine what you are feeling but let us share our heart-felt condolence.

  • We know the day will come but death always leaves us with grief.

  • We offer deepest condolences to you and your family.

  • We pray the love for the lost is forever carried in your memory.

  • We stand by our uncle, in a time where his beloved wife passed away.

  • We were coworkers of (Name of deceased). Words cannot express our sorrow. The office will not be the same without (Him/Her). (Name of deceased) will be missed.

  • When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.

  • Word’s cannot express the sadness we feel for you dealing with the death of (Name of deceased)

  • Words fall short of expressing my sorrow for your loss.

  • Words fall short of expressing my sorrow. My condolences.

  • You and your family are in our prayers. Sorry to hear of your loss.

  • You are in our hearts and prayers.

  • Your family is surrounded by the love of many.

How To End A Condolence Message?

  • Caring thoughts are with you, (Name)

  • God bless you and comfort you, (Name)

  • God bless, (Name)

  • In caring sympathy, (Name)

  • Keeping you in our prayers, (Name)

  • Lifting you up in prayer, (Name)

  • My heart goes out to you, (Name)

  • My sincere condolences, (Name)

  • Please accept our condolences, (Name)

  • Praying for you, (Name)

  • Sharing your sadness, (Name)

  • Thinking of you, (Name)

  • Wishing you healing, (Name)

  • Wishing you peace, (Name)

  • With caring, (Name)

  • With deepest sympathy, (Name)

  • With heartfelt sympathy, (Name)

  • With love at this sad time, (Name)

  • With prayers and sympathy, (Name)

  • With sincere sympathy, (Name)

  • With sympathy, (Name)

  • With warm thoughts and prayers, (Name)

  • With you in sorrow, (Name)

Mensajes De Condolencia En Español:

  • Lamento su pérdida y quiero que sepa que oraré por la fortaleza, la paz y la comodidad para usted y su familia.
  • Rezaré por ti y por tu familia. El amor y la gracia de Dios están siempre contigo.
  • La esperanza de salvación es más importante en nuestras vidas cuando la muerte nos toca.
  • Estamos orando para que la luz del rostro de Dios pueda brillar sobre ti en la oscuridad de tu dolor.
  • El cielo ha recibido un nuevo miembro.
  • El pensamiento de saber que nuestros seres queridos están en la presencia del salvador puede ser de algún consuelo.
  • Lamento su pérdida y quiero que sepa que oraré por la fortaleza, la paz y la comodidad para usted y su familia.
  • Por favor acepte mis más profundas condolencias y sepa que Dios lo ama y puede restaurar sus espíritus, darle paz y fortalecerlo.
  • Dios lo ve y lo sabe todo. El esta contigo en este momento
  • Nosotros / yo estamos / estamos profundamente tristes por la noticia de (Nombre del fallecido) que pasa. Nuestros / Mis pensamientos y oraciones están con usted y su familia.
  • Las oraciones y los buenos recuerdos son lo que debemos recordar (Partidos).
  • Que nuestro Señor los bendiga y consuele a usted y a su familia durante este tiempo de dolor.
  • Que el alma de (Nombre del difunto) descanse en paz.
  • Nos gustaría ofrecer nuestras oraciones y condolencias a usted y su familia.
  • Que Dios te abrace con comodidad durante este tiempo difícil.
  • Dios es nuestro refugio y fortaleza, una ayuda muy presente en problemas. Salmo 46:1
  • Llámame y te responderé ... Jeremías 33:3
  • Da fuerza a los cansados ​​y aumenta el poder de los débiles. Isaías 40:29
  • Te acompaño en este momento de duelo / de dolor
  • Lamento profundamente esta gran pérdida.
  • Mis mas profundas condolencias
  • Isaías 41:10 no temas, porque yo estoy contigo; no desmayes, porque yo soy tu Dios; Te fortaleceré, te ayudaré, te defenderé con mi mano derecha justa.

Condolences - Sharing In Your Sorrow

Express Sympathy: My heart is with you in your time of sorrow.         compassionate condolence message: Sharing in your sorrow with love and frienship. With Sincere Sympathy

Why Is It Important to Express Your Condolence?

Condolences bring comfort to the bereaved and let them know that you are thinking of them. This is particularly meaningful if you are far away and unable to attend the funeral or remembrance service.


Expressing condolences can be difficult, heart-breaking, awkward, distressing and sometimes even embarrassing. It is not something one does everyday and very few people can claim to be skilled at this.


Very often, people simply feel that it is better to ignore the event and carry on with your life, leaving the bereaved to sort themselves out and come to terms with the death.


Here are a few points to re-consider if you are in two minds about sending condolences.

  1. Not expressing condolences can have long lasting subconscious negative effects that will worry you - ignoring the event is not good for your well-being. It can leave you with a sense of unfinished business that will niggle for years to come.

  2. Meeting up with the bereaved friends or family at a later stage may raise feelings of embarrassment and tension, knowing that you did not send condolences.

  3. Sending condolences gives you a sense of calmness and clarity. It allows you to take time and evaluate your relationship with the deceased. It lets you ponder and express your thoughts in meaningful words. You don't have to write screeds, a few simple lines will do. Find words that will bring joy to the mourners. Highlight a special quality, an event, a warm anecdote or a community deed that the person did.

  4. Condolences bring comfort to the bereaved and let them know that you are thinking of them. This is particularly meaningful if you are far away and unable to attend the funeral or remembrance service.

  5. Once the trauma is over, friends and family will sit down and read the condolence notes. Your words will bring comfort, guidance and support and help them deal with the passing.

  6. Very often the family are in a traumatic state and are not able to talk to you. Sending condolences is a way to reach out, make contact and let them know that you are thinking of them.

  7. If you are able to offer help, your condolence message can include that as a suggestion. Family may help to do errands and tasks that they are unable to deal with. Your message will make it easier for them to ask for help.

Take the time and do the right thing. If you are not good with words and are struggling to decide what to say, take a look at our selection of condolence cards and messages. They will give you ideas and help you choose the correct thoughts and words to convey your feelings.


Who Should Send A Condolence Message?

When you learn about the death of a person, you are filled with a variety of emotions. These will vary depending on how close you were to that person or under what circumstances your lives touched one another.

You could be a very close family member or a life-time friend, in which case this event will be both traumatic and devastating. Perhaps you are a distant relative who didn’t have much contact but are still saddened.

People you interact with daily in the work place could be friends, respected colleagues, admired mentors or even not-well-liked. But, their passing will leave you with mixed feelings on how to deal with this.

Neighbors, members of the community, your local Church, book clubs, gyms and other recreational venues have been part of your life and their passing should be acknowledged in a dignified and thoughtful manner.

Many people are not good with words and struggle to find the appropriate thing to say. Our selection of condolence cards and messages will give you ideas and help you to choose the correct words to convey your feelings.

Here are some helping hints

  1. A loved one is probably the most difficult. Try to include some personal mention of happy moments that will bring comfort to the bereaved when they read it.

  2. A close friend can be remembered by special times spent together and memories shared.

  3. Acknowledge co-workers by telling the bereaved how they impacted on your life on a daily basis or inspired you, as you spent many hours together in the work place.

  4. Neighbors can be remembered with thanks for their support and friendship.

  5. Community members can be acknowledged for their work and dedication to the neighborhood and local initiatives.

Always be true to yourself. Don’t write words that you don’t feel are true. If the person was not close to you, simply express condolences and good wishes. If the person was close, a personal note will bring much needed comfort to those reading the condolence messages.

How do you write a condolence?

Writing an effective and meaningful condolence can help the grieving individual get through a difficult period. It’s important to correctly express your sorrow and offer appropriate support.

Foremost, Take into consideration the relationship between the the person grieving and the deceased. The condolence message would be different for an immediate family member such as husband, father, or child rather than a cousin or family friend.

Another consideration would the circumstances of the passing. Was the deceased older and passed from natural causes or a younger person that died in an accident. Occasionally the death may have been the result of drug overdose or suicide.

Religious beliefs can influence the message. “May his soul rest in peace” or a favorite Bible Verse would be comforting for a deeply religious person. A Sympathy Quote such as “Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality - Emily Dickinson” would provide solace to a non-believer.

After you’ve thought about the consideration above, look at the the list of suggested Condolence Message and select one or combine several.


Offering condolences under difficult circumstances?


Offering condolences is difficult for most people - it is not something we do everyday. How does one write words that are honest and meaningful without sounding awkward or simply saying the wrong thing?

Being old and dying peacefully in your sleep is a blessing that very few will have. Many people die under tragic or difficult circumstances, making the writing of a condolence note even more of a challenge.

Here are some ideas to help you write a meaningful note under difficult circumstances.

  1. Many families have rifts. Sisters and brothers don’t talk to one another, parents and children fall out. When someone dies, these rifts take on another perspective, often leaving you with the helpless feeling that ‘it is too late to make amends’. Choose simple words and indicate that you wanted to heal the rift but didn’t know how. The bereaved will at least have that measure of comfort in years to come.

  2. Strained friendships are part of life and take on a new dimension when someone passes on. If you learn that a friend’s loved one has passed, send a condolence note. Mention that you miss the wonderful times you shared and that you would love to rekindle your friendship when they are ready.

  3. A boss or work colleague you dislike passes on – it may be terrible to say but in real life some people might feel relieved or even happy. Keep these thoughts to yourself and in no way pass them onto the grieving family. Write a simple note that offers condolences, don’t say anything negative and leave it at that.

  4. Suicide is a shock for all and can leave close friends and relatives with feelings of guilt. Your condolence note is not the time to pry and ask for details. These issues can be dealt with at a later stage.

  5. Tragic accidents are a part of life. Express condolences and don’t ask for details. The bereaved often do not want to talk about the event and prefer to be reminded of happy memories or anecdotes about the person.

  6. Be aware of religious issues. Saying things like ‘She is happy in Heaven’ may upset people who do not have the same cultural beliefs as you. Avoid references like this unless you are sure of the religious beliefs of the family.

  7. Illness and death. Avoid clichés like ‘He is better off now’. These statements do not help the mourners. Rather focus on a personal good memory and write about that. The family will read your message at a later stage and gain comfort from it.

If you are struggling to write a condolence note, browse through our messages and cards. They will give you ideas and help you find the meaningful words you need.


Offering condolences on the loss of a pet?


For pet lovers, losing a pet can be as traumatic and distressing as losing a family member or close friend. For non-pet people, this can sometimes be a difficult thing to understand and quite hard to raise the emotions one needs to write a condolence note.

Understanding that the person is suffering grief and despair will help put you in the right frame of mind. They need to mourn and heal in the same way a person would do after losing a loved one.

For older people who live alone, a pet is sometimes the only companion they have had for years and the loss can be devastating.

Children can be traumatized by the death of a pet. This is often the first real-life experience of death, making it all that more difficult to cope with.

Couples who are unable to have children often treat their pets as children and are just as devastated when they pass on.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when talking to a friend, or writing a condolence note, after a pet has died.

  1. Try to use the name of the pet if you know it. Pets are part of the family and have names like everyone else – not just ‘dog’ or ‘cat’.

  2. Ask if they need help with anything. Sometimes removing the pets toys, eating bowls and bedding can be traumatic. If you are up to it, they may welcome your help.

  3. Include a fun anecdote or a fond memory in your condolence message about an experience you had with their pet. At a later stage, the bereaved will read the messages and get a sense of comfort.

  4. Don’t say things like ‘When are you getting another one?’. It will certainly upset the person – you would never say that if a child had passed on.

  5. Don’t mention your own experiences of a pet dying - it is not the time or place. Let the person talk and be a good listener.

  6. If a pet was put to sleep, the person is probably dealing with feelings of guilt and remorse. This is not an easy decision to make and you cannot pass judgement. Simply listen and offer support.

  7. Don’t say things like ‘She was old and it was for the best’. Those are not the feelings that the mourners are experiencing. Imagine that the pet was a person and you will get the correct perspective.

Browse our collection of condolence messages and cards - they are ideal for pets too. The suggestions will help you find the correct words to say, offering comfort to a grieving friend or loved one.